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Just for Today I Will Not Anger
And Choose Peace Instead
We all experience anger, sometimes it can get the better of us. Like when someone cuts us off in traffic, our kids refuse to listen, we get an upsetting email from our co-worker or boss. Any of things can turn us into screaming, seething lunatics and ruin our day – if we let it.
One of the five Reiki precepts is: Just for today I will not anger. On the surface this can confuse a person. How can one not experience anger? I mean most us are not monks living in quiet solitude on a mountain in the middle of nowhere. We’re going to get angry, it’s pretty unavoidable. As one digs deeper into understanding this statement, it becomes clear that this principle is deep because we all get angry, mad, frustrated, etc. – even the monks living on the mountain. However, if we let these emotions take hold and consume us, they rob of us our peace and happiness. Stop and think about that for a moment, how do you feel when you hold a grudge against someone or when you plot to “get even” with someone you feel has wronged you. Do you feel better? Who is it really hurting? What do you get out of it? Maybe you feel vindicated by “getting even” or perhaps by holding onto all the anger against another person for an extended amount of time, that person will finally see things your way, or maybe they’ll apologize or tell you that you’re right about whatever it is your holding against them. But in the long run all that anger you hold onto is just hurting you.
Recently Michael, my son and I took a day trip to upstate NY to go hiking. We had a fun time together. Then on the way back, we took a wrong turn of sorts. Michael left me (directionaly challenged) in charge of making sure we were following the GPS directions correctly. Everything was going fine until we had to make a pit stop for gas and such. Once we were ready to get back on the road we experienced some technical difficulties with getting his phone to sync back up with my car’s audio system. Then the directions got muddled and instead of taking the Hutchinson Parkway we ended up on the Cross Bronx Expressway. This situation upset Michael as he’s more familiar with the Hutchinson Parkway while I’m comfortable taking the Cross Bronx, so I wasn’t overly upset. That was until Michael expressed his frustration with the accidental detour. Had this mishap happened with my ex-husband, the experience would’ve have completely different. My ex would’ve yelled and carried on for the remainder of the car ride home. However, while Michael was angry and expressed his frustration through the tone of his voice, he didn’t let his anger get the better of him. Instead of yelling, cussing and screaming, we sat quietly taking deep breaths while the nice GPS lady got us to the Long Island Expressway.
This precept is not an easy one to grapple with. It’s a hard one because often times we want to get mad and hold a grudge or seek revenge against someone we feel has wronged us. We don’t want them to get away with what they did to us. We want to yell at our spouse/partner, kids or co-worker (signs of an extremely toxic work environment). We want them to know that we’re mad and they have something to do with it. Holding onto anger and our anger stories takes up valuable space in our energetic being. When we don’t let go of our anger we can become sick, tired and easily agitated. None of which are good for our physical or emotional health. It’s only when we let go of our anger that can we feel relief.
That is the one of the key lessons of this precept. When we can’t let go of our anger and we constantly retell the story of any particular thing, situation or person that has made us angry, we’re robbing ourselves of peace. Learning to let go of anger is important to our mental and emotional well-being. Just for today I will not anger doesn’t mean we don’t experience anger; it really means we don’t allow it to consume our thoughts and actions. Let’s say someone cuts you off in traffic. You can honk your horn, give them the middle finger salute and curse them for the remainder of your drive and let it ruin the remainder of your day. You can retell your story over and over to anyone who’ll listen and let your anger about this situation consume you, or you can experience the anger, take a few deep breaths, maybe put your favorite song on the radio and move on. One of these scenarios allows you to experience your anger and be at peace, the other doesn’t. If you’d like to learn more about how let go of your anger or share some of your techniques for letting go of anger, email me at thequiethealer@gmail.com.
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